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Marriage arguments may be a smokescreen

The neighbors who lived on the west side of my apartment were a young couple in their twenties. To say that their relationship had problems is like saying if you fall into Niagara Falls you will get a little wet. Their marriage arguments were hard to drown out with my TV.

Being their neighbor

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Avoid divorce, breakup, keep your husband or wife

If you have found a wonderful man or woman, the odds of you two staying together are better than for the average couple, right?  Unfortunately, no.  Your odds of divorce are still the same as for the average couple–about 41% for first marriages, 60% for second marriages, and 70% for third marriages.   For

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Divorce and Childhood Trauma

Divorce and Childhood Trauma

Researchers show that the children of divorced parents survive as much or more psychological stress and trauma from the divorce as their parents. Studies show that children whose parents divorce show increased signs of insecurity, have less self-confidence, and endure guilty feelings; children often feel helpless and ‘at fault’ for

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Why We Suck at Relationships

My wife Patty Gates-Firehammer is a love consultant. She’s really good at it! I can’t tell you how often she comes home and says, “I ran into so and so today and she said, oh Patty am I glad to see you, so and so and I haven’t been getting along very well I’m

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Talking the "Ir" Off Irreconcilable Differences

Pardon the Play on Words!  I couldn’t resist. The point I want to make is that irreconcilable differences do exist, but often what seems irreconcilable is actually reconcilable when at least these things are true.

If the difference is an invisible one plus you’re aware of it and what it represents in terms of

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